Who Sees A Dominatrix, Anyway?

I’d day dream about me too if I was a submissive…

I was struggling with the clasp on my corset when my phone rang. I sighed deeply as I reached for the answer button and accepted a call from a fetish site I had been using to connect with gorgeous play things for ages. 

“Hello Mistress.” A heavily accented voice answered as soon as we connected, “What can I do for you today?”

There is something satisfying about having a stranger call and pay you for the pleasure of telling you about how beautiful you are, how much they desire to be under your control, the lust they feel when you laugh at their expense. 

It’s intoxicating. It’s heady. 

It’s Femdom at it’s finest. 

I slid into my role just as I had the corset I had just been taking selfies in. It was familiar, it was something I did all the time, something that is sincerely a part of who I am. 

“Have we spoken before, boy?” I asked. 

He will call me for entertainment, or to relieve the urges he has had building up inside his heart, his mind, his body for a day, or a week, or a lifetime. Sometimes he just wants to chat, and doesn’t talk about kink at all. He is too nervous to bring it up and it will be several phone calls before he tells me what he likes. He will call me late or he will call me early. He will call me when his housemates are out or he will have to keep his voice down so the parents he still lives with don’t hear his naughty secrets. 

He will be a banker or a lawyer or a courier. His job will have great pay and benefits or it will have no status at all and he’ll be fighting just to receive pay for the hours he does work. 

He will be the man who you walk past in the street. He will be your boss, your best friend. 

As they say, a submissive can be any man. But the men who call me do seem to have some similarities, and those are what people want to hear about. 

Because I speak English and advertise on websites that appeal to westerners, most of the men I speak to are from the UK, Australia, the USA and India. Their fetishes vary widely, however, because I talk about forced bi fantasies, cuckold fantasies, findom, role play and femdom, these are the bulk of what he is into. 

The stereotype of the executive who calls a dominatrix to boss him around also isn’t completely accurate, although I do have men call me who work high-pressure white color jobs, I also have men who want to submit to the goddess who work blue collar jobs, are tradesmen, or have a few different jobs to cobble together an income. 

I have spoken to single dads and to men who have never married or even kissed a woman before. As much as I love virgin submissives, they are not all that common in my callers unfortunately. 

The deep taboos of femdom don’t seem to bother anyone. Mostly, they excite my callers who ask me to talk about the naughtiest things I have done or the most submissive men I have had the pleasure of playing with – either over the phone or in person – they will ask what my favorite topics are – the answer is pretty much everything you’re into, because my callers tend to gravitate towards me because of what I am into – they will ask a million questions about all the other men I deal with. They sometimes don’t even want to talk about themselves and what they’re into.

Then there is my friends from my vanilla life. My vanilla friends insist on knowing the kinkiest thing I have heard on the phone line, or the most disturbing. 

I guess it isn’t just the sexiness of these sorts of fantasies that people enjoy, but they are curious about people who engage in them too. People are curious about what everyone else is doing. They want to know what excites others, what gets them going. They want to know about what other people are doing, why they are calling, how dirty and naughty everyone else is. 

But the answer is, if you are reading this, you are probably the sort of person who would see a dominatrix. 

You are curious about things a bit taboo and naughty. You want to know more about femdom and the nature of BDSM, and the people who engage in it. You want to know what everyone else is doing because there is something in you – a desire that you might not have troubled yourself to bury all that deeply, really – that makes you want to know more. 

You might want to know if you fit into what I regularly see, almost as if you need to have permission to call. It doesn’t matter if you’re not male, or if you’re not someone who has ever called a femdom before, or even if your intentions are not to get off on the phone with me, I will still welcome your call.

I want to hear just as much from the people I regularly hear from as I do want to hear from new people – even if their intent is a little different, and they want to talk to me but don’t quite know why, or what they want out of the call.

So why spend your life wondering about everyone else? Why not reach out yourself? You might find you like it. 

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